Secret of giving…

I love the lyrics of this song by Reba McEntire – part of it goes like this:
If there’s just one secret to living, whoever you are
It’s learning the meaning of giving with an open heart…
If you offer the best part of yourself
even when you don’t have anything else
Honest and true, it’ll come back to you –
Love comes back to you…

Much has been said about giving – how in giving, we will receive and what goes around comes around but I do believe that when one gives with one’s heart, the joy and good feelings that one derives from it, the good vibes and the blessings, the strengthening of love and friendship bonds that ensues would be reward enough.

My girl would not be coming home for Chap Goh Meh which fell on a Thursday so I prepared some of the ingredients for her to have a steamboat dinner with her friends/housemates/colleagues at their quarters in the school. That, of course, meant that there would only be the two of us at home – my missus and I so I decided to invite my good friend, Lim, his missus and three children over to my place…and I also told my missus to ask my in-laws over. Everybody would not be home so at their house, there would just be my mother-in-law, the son and the wife – only the 3 of them.

My sister-in-law went and bought these Foochow-style sio bee (meat dumplings)…

Hock Chu Leu sio bee

…from this age-old restaurant in town that has been around for as long as I can remember. She shouldn’t have really as there would more than enough to go round, I was sure, but anyway, it was so sweet and thoughtful of her to go through all that trouble – she said there were long queues that day as everyone was buying some home for their Chap Goh Meh dinner as well.

In the meantime, I told Lim not to bring anything but as always, such things would only fall on deaf ears and they brought us these…

From Lim & family

– biscuits and coffee…and TWO bottles of pek chiew (white wine) from Kuching for cooking kacang ma. Hmmm…I knew they would not come empty-handed and I also knew it was the son’s birthday a few days ago so I prepared an ang pao specially for him and of course, when we get down to cooking some kacang ma chicken, I must remember to send some over to their house to reciprocate.  In Hokkien, we refer to this as oo lai oo khee (got come, got go).

That very evening, I received a call from someone that I knew very well – we used to hang around the same karaoke pub in the 90’s. He is based in Miri now and was home for Chap Goh Meh and the weekend and he dropped over at my house to pass me these…

From Raphael and Amy in Miri

…from my cousin and his very sweet wife in Miri. I love these tau sar peah from there, much nicer than those anywhere else and the khong therng is really very good…

Miri khong therng

…too but I think the nice one that we can get over here…

Sibu khong therng

…has an edge over it. Both have that very nice freshly-ground peanut fragrance unlike the ones sold at the supermarkets but I feel that between the two, the one from Miri is a little sweeter.  Anyway, at least, they can get it very easily there unlike here – that lady will make whenever she is in the mood…and nobody knows when that would be, not even the lady who runs the stall at Medan Mall here selling these and other Foochow delights. I once wanted to place an order for 100 packs and was turned down. Tsk! Tsk!

It rained a bit that evening, very briefly, and the weather that night was very pleasant and cool. I did not look out for the full moon but the fireworks…

Chap Goh Meh fireworks Sibu 2015

…and the firecrackers raged on through the night to mark the end of the Chinese New Year festivities for the year.

Thank you so very very much, all, for everything…and as for our Chap Goh Meh dinner, you’ll read more about it in the next post. Stay tuned!

Gee!!! It was my blog’s 7th anniversary yesterday and I had been so caught up with things around here, all the Chinese New Year festivities, that I did not even realise it until I got this message: “Happy Anniversary with!” in my notifications. My! My! Time sure flies…and it’s been seven years already. Let’s drink to more happy years together and lots more anniversaries to come. Cheers!!!

Author: suituapui

Ancient relic but very young at heart. Enjoys food and cooking...and travelling and being with friends.

25 thoughts on “Secret of giving…”

  1. Happy Anniversary! I started blogging in 2008 too but i can’t remember in which month i started it….

    Thanks. You can go into your archives and check the date of your very first post.

  2. We call those dumplings siomai and i loooove them!
    Happy anniversary!

    That’s tagalog, eh? In Cantonese, it’s siew mai. This is the Fuzhou version that we have here. Thanks.

  3. Cheersssss & Yum Senggggggg!!!!…Happy 7th Anniversary to your blog & hoping many many more to come. So much lovely gifts came pouring in again,love the heavenly sio bee & khong therng. Bet everyone is having a wonderful Chap Goh Meh at your house.

    You’ll see and read all about it in tomorrow’s post. Wink! Wink! Thanks. Yes, so thankful for all these nice and generous people and all the lovely things they gave.

  4. A wow! Congratulations on your 7 th blogging anniversary! N many more years to come. Lucky not the infamous 7 years itch eh! Haha!We were all pioneers commentators when u first started😜

    Yes, taat setia all these years. Keep dropping by and commenting!

  5. Very uplifting post, Arthur, with a lot of positive messages. My favorite of course is oo lai oo khee. 7 years of daily blogs. That’s a labor of love, my friend. Congrats.

    Thanks, Philip. Thanks for your kind words and glad to know you are always around. 🙂

  6. i’ve never heard of that reba song, but the lyrics are lovely and a positive thing to reflect on this sunday 🙂 happy blogbirthday! you’re 10 months older than me, heheh 🙂

    Ya, not one of Reba’s familiar songs. I happened to stumble upon it, and I liked it…especially the lyrics. Thanks. Wowwww!!!! And look at you now! Celebrity blogger while I’m still this same ol’ country bumpkin. Sobssss!!!!

  7. Happy anniversary! 7 years of blogging, not easy, somemore a post a day.. I post once a week already struggling what to write.. The khong therng looks good, like sweet mashed peanuts dessert that melts amd crushes inside the mouth, yummmzzz…

    Thanks. I think I know what you’re talking about. The Foochows have that too! I saw it at the pasar malam once, didn’t buy. Must remember to grab a piece or two the next time I drop by.

  8. Cheers to your 7 years of blogging! It’s really nice of you to invite your in-laws and your friends to celebrate Chap Goh Meh. I understand what you said about the joy of giving. And of course there’s always joy in receiving too hee..hee…

    Yes, what goes around comes around…and as you give, so shall you receive. I believe it works that way.

  9. Happy Anniversary to you. It is just barely over 3 years that I have been blogging. That Jacob’s Weetameal looks interesting. 🙂

    Thanks. You don’t have them there? Jacob’s? We like those – very light, not really sweet and has fibre content so good for one’s bowel movement, I guess. 😉

  10. Hi Arthur? Sorry,I’m still not used to call you suituapui lol…

    Oh, you’re from Miri? All those familiar siobee, kacang ma, and foo chow delights are only from Sarawak! *Ngaiti~* >_<

    Arthur’s fine, no worries. I think I prefer that actually. No, I’m not from Miri – I’m in Sibu. Hmmmm…you’ve picked up some Hakka words in Kuching, eh? 😀

  11. Happy 7th anniversary to your wonderful blog!!

    Lovely gifts you got there from wonderful people.

    Kuching white rice is the best. Hakka white rice for kacangma. 😉

    Thanks. My missus gets hers from a distiller here – the first brew, stronger…not diluted, more fragrant. Will try these from Kuching. I think they gave us before…and also the red wine, Kuching one – not the same as the Sibu one.

    1. Oopps. I been white wine. Pardon me because of my painful fingers.

      Yup, yup, you mean you mean. 😀 Poor thing! When I got it from my girl and we went to see the doctor, he said “Isn’t that the sickness cows get?” Tsk! Tsk! At that time, HFMD not so common. So stupid, the doctor! Grrrrrrr!!!!

    2. Yes. Not the same. Different taste compared to Foochow red wine.

      Nice, but not used to it for mee sua chicken soup.

  12. never had foo chow style dumplings before… cant seem to find it here also 😦

    You’ll have to come over to try these…and lots of other things here too – some, you may find at some places but of course, ours are very very very much nicer. Come, come. See whether I’m telling the truth or not. Hehehehehe!!!!

  13. I loves the sio bee, can eat quite a number of it, hehe…

    Come! Let’s see how many you can eat in one sitting! 😀

  14. Love the lively melody of the song, is it a country song?
    I love siobee, and the Khong Thern makes me water.

    Yup, Reba McEntire’s a famous country singer. The khong therng’s from Miri. Ah!!!! Can ask you to buy and send when I need some for my salad dressing, can? 😉

  15. Wow, Happy Anniversary,!
    7 years of blogging, a post every day. Now that’s passion and persistency. 🙂

    Thanks. Hopefully, it will go on and on for a long time to come…

  16. Happy 7th Anniversary to STP!! I love that type of peanut candy. Or should I say anything with peanut? hahaha…. 😀

    Thanks. Been buying again and again for people – seems to be available quite a lot these few days. Usually, for months, I would not get to see any. 😦

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