Imperfect

A friend of mine shared this on Facebook the other day and I thought it was so beautiful – something that I myself would like to share with everyone here…

When I was a kid, my mom liked to make breakfast food for dinner every now and then. I remember one night in particular when she had made breakfast after a long, hard day at work. On that evening so long ago, my mom placed a plate of eggs, sausage and extremely burnt biscuits in front of my dad.

I remember waiting to see if anyone noticed! Yet all my dad did was reach for his biscuit, smile at my mom and ask me how my day was at school. I don’t remember what I told him that night, but I do remember hearing my mom apologise to my dad for burning the biscuits. And I’ll never forget what he said: “Honey, I love burnt biscuits.”

Later that night, I went to kiss Daddy good night and I asked him if he really liked his biscuits burnt. He wrapped me in his arms and said, “Your momma put in a long hard day at work today and she’s real tired. And besides, a burnt biscuit never hurts anyone!”

Life is full of imperfect things… and imperfect people. I’m the best at hardly anything, and I am just like everyone else. What I’ve learned over the years is that learning to accept each other’s faults and choosing to celebrate each other’s differences are among the most important keys to creating a healthy, growing and lasting relationship.

Life is too short to wake up with regrets. ENJOY LIFE NOW – IT HAS AN EXPIRY DATE!ย So…please pass me a biscuit. And yes, the burnt one will do just fine! It is in our imperfections that we are perfect… And please share this with someone who has enriched your life. I just did!

Have a Blessed Sunday, everyone…

P.S.:
Heartiest congratulations to my blogger-friend, Isaac Tan, who is tying the knot in Penang today…

Isaac & Janice
*Isaac Tan’s photo on Facebook*

Here’s wishing you and Janice, Isaac, blue skies and everything nice in the years ahead. May your life together be perpetually blessed with abundant bliss. Cheers!!!

Author: suituapui

Ancient relic but very young at heart. Enjoys food and cooking...and travelling and being with friends.

43 thoughts on “Imperfect”

  1. That’s a beautiful story… reminds me of Yasmin Ahmad’s ‘Beautifully Imperfect’ Petronas ad here: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4I3ZmNKYma0&feature=results_video&playnext=1&list=PL96A8A0BEC6CB814F.

    OMG… u made me cry early Sunday morn. Boohoooooo… sei la… once I start watching Yasmin Ahmad’s works, I cannot stop! This is all ur fault. *SOBS*

    There you go! Blaming people again! Appreciate people…appreciate life! Hehehehehe!!! ๐Ÿ˜€

    Btw, this wasn’t Petronas. It was a commercial for some Family campaign in Singapore. Imagine they engaged Yasmin to do the commercials for them, Singapore! Thumbs up for our own Malaysian home-grown… Too bad she’s gone now. See…life is short; live it to the fullest. Don’t waste it on moans and groans…

    1. Aiks??? Not Petronas ad? o.O I seriously din know that… I thought since it’s Yasmin Ahmad’s work… I thought it ought to be Petronas ad. >.< *sigh* I really miss Yasmin Ahmad… and her works truly irreplaceable, really.

      Yup…nobody gets anywhere near. Even when she touched on certain issues, she would do it subtly…with a whole lot of class, not using all that vulgar language as if not educated and worse still, so badly brought up. Chinese say: boh-ka-si!!!

      1. I keep an open mind when it comes to that. After all, everyone is different when it comes to art. I’m okay with people who express themselves in a rebellious and vulgar way… like Namewee. That guy… he’s all barks, and no bites. A humble person and a perfect gentleman in real life. Nothing like what he portrayed himself in his works at all. He’s also a good friend who constantly motivate ppl like me not to give up on what I want to achieve in life, even though it is not so possible in Malaysia.

        Anyway… once bitten, twice shy. I’m fine with ppl who communicate in a vulgar manner… but not ppl who portrayed themselves so sweetly and yet, they are viscous inside. I’ve lost count on how many of those ‘sweet, lady-like, gentlemanly’ people have backstabber me and when they did, those who doesn’t really look good in the eyes of public is the one who helped me back on my feet.

        Doesn’t change anything. Even western movies and songs with a lot of expletives – Melissa will be the first to express her disgust and dislike. It all boils down to home environment and upbringing. My mother would take a chili and threaten to push it into our mouths if she heard us using those words…so we don’t use such language at all. We do not feel comfortable with it at all…and people using such language on Facebook, I would tolerate but if a bit too much, I would not hesitate to UNFRIEND. As for your friends, there are a lot like that – you just need to be a better judge of character and not be fooled by sweet words and sweet talk. I’ve said it once – Jesus only had 12 apostles and one denied him, and another one betrayed him.

    2. Gosh, patutlar Cleff emo…i tengok that video pun tak boleh tahan…melalak you! Have to find hubby ( he’s sleeping as he got a very early flight this morning) and sayang him now…sob! sob!

      Pompuan! Cry babies! Muahahahahaha!!!! ๐Ÿ˜€

  2. Aiyaks… busy being emo… I wish Isaac and Janice happy together for as long as they both shall live too. >.< (tulah pasal… distracted! tsk!)

    Thanks on their behalf… (There, blaming me again! Tsk! Tsk! LOL!!!)

    1. Tsk…too bad I’m not close wif Isaac… or else… I will ask him to drop his red bomb to me… so that i got excuse to makan angin in Penang. >.<

      I didn’t get one either but he did ask me beforehand and I told him that I would not be able to go… The traditional practice would be if you get a “summons”, even if you cannot go, you will have to send the “fine”. I guess that would explain why he did not send me one. ๐Ÿ™‚

      1. Anybody getting married in Penang? >..< How bout Mandy? Is she gonna get married in Penang? (getting desperate)

        I know a couple who may tie the knot sometime, not Mandy…but I don’t think you’re their blogger-friend. Gee! I’m so lucky, so blessed…. I’ve made so many friends through blogging…. ๐Ÿ˜‰

      2. Hi cleffairy! Not close let’s get close. Lol! Btw thanks STP for the wishes. Really touched. :):)

        Both in KL, so near yet so far… Wah! Isaac…sibik2 kahwin, also sempat drop by to comment… You addicted to blogging lah! LOL!!! ๐Ÿ˜€

  3. Yes… we’re indeed very blessed to have found so many friends through blogging. *sigh* this is gonna sound pathetic, but I have found more friends through blogging and my writing more than in real life. And I kinda lost touch with a lot of old school friends who used to be closed to me. You see, they are not on the same wavelength with me anymore. And some of them, become so berlagak after achieving certain degree of success in my life. Sad… but I think I’ve lost some friends cuz I no longer feel comfortable having dinner dates and whatnot with them cuz they can get really cocky and sarcastic at times.

    Time passes, we move on…and people change. I will always keep an open mind and an open heart…ready to accept anyone who is ready to accept me just the way I am. If I’m not good enough for them, too bad… Their loss, not mine. I remember once I met a very very close friend in Sibu, he was with his professional colleagues here for some prestigious seminar… I had not seen him for a long time but I went up to greet him – me as always dressed shabbily in old t-shirt and shorts….and I could sense that he was embarrassed to talk to me in the presence of his classy companions. Never mind, I just said goodbye and took my leave. Heard he fell very ill eventually, had to sell his house and all to pay his medical bills….

  4. I heard of this story before but it is slightly different. It has burnt muffins instead of biscuits and it’s between the little sister and the mum. Either way it’s still a beautiful story. Lovely story to start a Sunday morning ๐Ÿ™‚

    Yes, and do have a great day today…and a wonderful week ahead. ๐Ÿ™‚

  5. Beautiful story indeed. I’m going to make my hubby read it so he stops complaining about my food.

    Congratulations on your wedding Isaac! May God bless you and Janice with lots of kids and marital bliss! ๐Ÿ™‚

    Muahahahahaha!!!! No comment. Ya, thanks for the good wishes on behalf of the happy couple.

    1. Thanks kiddo! Sorry can’t really comment much, on phone now while waiting for the wifey to makeup for the final wedding dinner tonight.

      What FINAL wedding? How many weddings have you had and this will be the last one? Muahahahahahaha!!!!! Or how many wedding dinners have you hosted, the final one tonight? Come, I delete the word for you… Hehehehehe!!!! ๐Ÿ˜‰

  6. God bless Isaac and Janice! No wonder last night didn’t see him in the kick boxing arena( I hv got the tics frm him.

    Yeah, being able to understand, give and take in a relationship are really important.

    Ya…bet he was busy having his stag party – the bachelor’s last nite out with the boys. LOL!!!๐Ÿ˜‰ Yes, giving and taking – a two-way street, that’s what’s most crucial.

    1. Thanks for the wishes Alice. The kickboxing must be good yes? :):)

      STP, no stag party Lo. Lol! Just a drink with ex schoolmates who helped out this morning be my Heng tais. They’re awesome!

      Just one drink? Tonight also, ya! Don’t get drunk… May bridegrooms do…and then they start talking rubbish. Eyewwww!!!!! ๐Ÿ˜€

  7. =S i think my dad will just scold my mum, cook for so long yet still can cook till burnt? =.=
    i really should let my dad read that!
    thanks for sharing!

    and all the best to Isaac! =D *tumpang*

    Ya, the traditional Chinese husband would not be so gracious, I think. Hey…you’re from Penang, aren’t you? He didn’t invite you to his wedding.? You’re just a virtual friend, one of his friends on blogosphere…or not even that?

    1. Hi Henry! Nice to know you here. Didn’t know ur from Penang. Plus from mmu too?? Wait let me stalk your FB for more info

      I think he’s doing his internship there right now, going back to MMU soon… Hehehehehe!!!! I’ve been stalking too! Your brother in MMU right now, Isaac?

  8. Yes, live life today….dont hold any grudges against anyone… we wont look pretty nor handsome if we do… hahaha….

    Isaac getting married today?? wow… must send him congratulatory wishes… end of bachelorhood… hahahaa…

    Hahahahaha!!! The way you put it, it’s as if it spells D-O-O-M, doom!!! ๐Ÿ˜€ Yup…smile and the whole world smiles with you. ๐Ÿ™‚

  9. This is so sweet…i think most husband now will give their wives a black face in the above scenerio ๐Ÿ˜ฆ

    I wouldn’t. Just eat… It’s like that when cooking – sometimes not very successful. ๐Ÿ˜ฆ

  10. Nice one! I bet your wife compliments your horrible food all the time too!
    hahahahahaa~~

    Nah!!! She has retired from work…so I have retired full-time from the kitchen! This is the life!!! Merdeka!!! Muahahahahahaha!!!! ๐Ÿ˜€

  11. Sweet & beautiful story. Life is short so make the most out of it.

    YAM SENG!!…YAM SENG!!…YAM SENG!!… to the newly weds. God Bless & May your life together be filled with everything nice.

    We never know when it is time for us to go so make the most of the time we have while we can.

    Wah! What yam seng, yam seng…no ang pao kah? ๐Ÿ˜€

    1. No need angpao. Yam Seng sudah cukup…..”ka ki lang”, LOL!!!!….

      Ya…like what they always put in invitation cards these days: “Gifts are respectfully declined.” But on my part, when I send out invitations, I always put R.S.V.P. – “Remember Send Valuable Presents!” LOL!!! ๐Ÿ˜€

  12. Yeah, we have to constantly reminds ourselves that life has expiry date and do forgive and forget, be considerate, gentle, let go the small stuffs and etc.

    It takes so little to be nice…and yet the effects can be so far-reaching. Keep the peace, spread the love.

  13. First and foremost, Congratulations to Isaac and Janice on their wedding.
    Read this story before and it struck me that my hubby is exactly like the man in the story. He never complains nor demand that things have to be perfect. If my cooking not up to par, he’ll still eat and will say something nice. If I’m too lazy to cook, he’ll say okay…we’ll eat outside. He never says anything nasty to me no matter how angry I make him, he seldom loses his temper and basically, I’m very lucky to have him in my life. Nowww…it’s totally the opposite for me…muahahaha.
    Have a great day,Arthur…apasal Cleff emo today?

    You big bully lah? Tsk! Tsk! Kesian, your hubby… You’re so lucky to marry a saint…and lucky you did not marry me or I would have thrown you out into the streets already. Muahahahahaha!!!! ๐Ÿ˜€ Cleff? I think she not only linked the video, kepo kepo went and watched again…crying all morning dah tu! LOL!!! ๐Ÿ˜€

  14. Congrats to the newly weds. Wish them happiness till the end of times. ๐Ÿ™‚

    That’s a simple yet meaningful story. Sometimes we shouldn’t say things that not ought to be said. Gotta think twice before we speak our mind.

    Thanks on their behalf for your well-wishes. Not really, we should be frank, speak our minds…but often, it is how we say it, the tone we use that may hurt the other parties….or we can follow what the old folks teach – if you have nothing nice to say, then it is time to remain silent. No need to say anything at all… Like somebody said, it all boils down to giving and taking and then only can people live together harmoniously.

  15. Hi, Shereen’s hubby here. She’s so lovely to write such thoughts ( most of it true too! ). I know how blessed I am to have her in my life and I can’t imagine a day without her. I think I am the lucky one in our relationship ๐Ÿ˜‰

    Ooooo….so lovey-dovey! So romantic! Muahahahaha!!!! Of course,all of it is true. Both are so lucky lah. ๐Ÿ˜‰

  16. A perfect burnt biscuit to remind us of imperfection. Congratz to Isaac & Janice.

    Thanks on their behalf. You don’t cook (one tank of gas can last a year), so no burnt biscuit…no problem. Just pay the money, happy ever after! ๐Ÿ˜‰

  17. such touching story..his father is so considerate.

    Everyone should try to be like that – fathers, mothers, hubbies, wives…and children too. ๐Ÿ˜‰

  18. That’s a lovely story. Many couples will benefit from reading this as it reminds us to appreciate our loved ones and not to be angry over petty things. Beautiful story indeed. Thanks for sharing.

    Welcome, glad you think it’s worth sharing. I think it most certainly is… ๐Ÿ™‚

  19. Dear Art, you are perfectly imperfect! Mwahahahahahha

    I tumpang congratulations to Isaac and Janice here. May they be in perpetual bliss together! ๐Ÿ™‚
    +Ant+

    LOL!!! I hope I am – wouldn’t want to be perfect… That wouldn’t be human. ๐Ÿ˜‰ Thanks on their behalf.

  20. wow, so sweet… it is true.. everyone have a hard day’s work.. by end of the day, everyone is tired.. all we can do is not give them anymore hard time.

    such a lovely story.

    oh and congratulations to isaac and janice :). a new life has begin, may you both live life happily together and of course forever sweetly :).

    Thanks. Such a sweet message… Ya…that’s right. Will have to be understanding, loving and caring.

  21. First, congratulations to the happy couple!

    Give and take…tha’s the key to a lasting relationship. Blaming and pointing fingers can turn ugly at times but learning how to accept mistakes and give forgiveness can mend differences.

    Thanks. Ya…have to close one eye and at times, have to close both eyes. I guess that’s what they actually mean when they say love is blind… ๐Ÿ˜‰

  22. Touching and sweet story…..thanks for sharing.

    Congrats to Isaac and Janice the beautiful couple.

    Thanks. Ya…a good lesson to remember, the story. ๐Ÿ˜‰

  23. Congrats to Isaac and Janice! Love this story. What a co-incidence we both touch on the subject “imperfection” and Bananaz and I both wrote about the the 3 stages of life recently. Looks like we have similar wave length, no wonder I always enjoy my time here. Oh I agree totally that if one have nothing nice to say, it is better have the lips zipped:D

    Ooooo…thank you for your kind words – I’m so flattered. Blush! Blush! LOL!!! ๐Ÿ˜€ And thanks on behalf of Isaac and Janice. Yes, I do believe that people should be happy and radiate happiness to others – keep the peace and spread the love! Being nasty or hurtful will end up making everybody unhappy and it does not in any way make things any better. ๐Ÿ˜ฆ

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