Nope! I’m not like that…even though I should, for health’s sake and not because of my appearance. I am old, fat and not in any way, good-looking but I believe that I am beautiful…inside. Very often, we hear people commenting, “She’s such a B***H! She thinks she’s SO beautiful!” Or they will say this of a guy, “He’s so full of himself! He considers himself God’s gift to women!” Well, these individuals are blessed with good looks on the outside…but obviously, they are not very popular.

Now, what makes a person beautiful? Here are some extracts from the song, (I am the) BODY BEAUTIFUL by Salt N Pepa

Everybody’s beautiful in their own special way…Beauty comes from within…Whatever the mind can conceive and believe, you will achieve…Open up your mind so your eyes can see…Bodies come in all different shapes and sizes…You’re beautiful, too, just realize this! Can’t you see the beauty in me?…Open up your heart and set your mind free…Everybody’s beautiful in their own way…Express yourself every day and when you’ve got joy on the inside, it shows on the out…Be confident and you’re beautiful without a doubt.

Yes, beauty comes from within and everyone is beautiful in his or her own way. The song talks about believing in yourself and being confident. I reckon that if you have high self-esteem, you will be able to project a personality that may be appealing to others, as opposed to someone who has very low self-esteem and always thinks lowly of himself and negatively about life and everything else for that matter, and that will definitely put people off. I bet not many will want to hang around people like that…unless they are birds of the same feather.

For one thing, a person’s character, rather than his physical attributes, will contribute towards making a person beautiful.  A person will exude “beauty” from within if he is kind, patient and understanding, generous and charitable, considerate and helpful…and above all, loving and caring. These qualities will make him attractive to others, pleasant to be with; these are the qualities that will make a person beautiful. Nobody’s perfect, of course, that’s for sure! But if one can have some of these characteristics, even if it is just to a certain degree, he or she can be beautiful…at least to some extent.

Well, recently, I came across something by Eileen Ramage (1996: www.citylights/ and I am of the opinion that she has managed to put it all down in words so beautifully indeed  in her poem, “THE BEAUTY WITHIN”…

Such beauty that lies within

No joy can compare

You can search the world all over

You won’t find it anywhere

You may like the shine of diamonds

The glitter of pure gold

A body that is beautiful

Nice things that you can hold

All these things are fragile

Get old and pass away

But the beauty that lies within us

Lasts forever come what may

This rare and special beauty

Can lay hidden from your view

I know that you can find it

By searching within you.

Great joy I know will follow

Your life will be free.

The serenity that you’ll feel

You then can share with me.

And I would like to conclude with these lines from Christina Aguilera’s song: “We are beautiful no matter what they say…we are beautiful in every single way!” Yes, I am….. Are you?

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Ruby Tuesday…

Well, it’s Tuesday today…but actually, I went to the Ruby Restaurant here in Sibu (again) last Saturday.  It was my brother-in-law’s birthday, you see! So, following the age-old Chinese/Foochow tradition, the dinner had to start with mee sua (string noodles for longevity)…..

We had the fried version, with hard-boiled eggs on the side, gently deep-fried to give it that golden colour (for good luck). Normally, the noodles are boiled and served in chicken-red wine soup but lately, there is this alternative and Ruby does it best! After that, we had this…..

In the past, they used to cook this with sharks’ fins but owing to the depletion in the fish population, many are protesting against its consumption…so we had that replaced with sea cucumber instead. It’s much cheaper, anyway…and tastes the same! We also had the specialty of the house – pandan chicken but you can see that in other blogs so I did not bother to take a photograph of that…and neither did I bother with the plate of cangkuk manis and the fish maw soup that we had.

Now, let’s see what else was there! Ah yes! The salty crispy prawns…

Well, notice that a few of them had gone missing! You see, my outlaws in-laws did not know about this blogging thingy, so they must be thinking that old age had finally gone to my head and I had gone bonkers (Not you, bongkersz!!!), taking photographs of everything. As a matter of fact, everytime a dish hit the table, I had to snap quickly – the hell with all those focus, angle and what have you, because within a split second, they would all dive in and attack…!!! LOL!!! Anyway, we also had Thai-style jellyfish…

…and sweet and sour fish fillet…

All in all, there were 8 dishes for 7 people…and including the rice (Yes! In addition to all that, they had rice! I didn’t! Hahahahahahaha!!!) and drinks, believe it or not, the bill came up to around RM150 only.

Anyone’s birthday coming up soon…..???

Home (1)…

I was born and raised in Sibu,…left at the age of 20, and came back 10 years later…and I’ve stayed here since! I’m not going to go into the history or the geography of the town;I bet you can find that in other blogs or elsewhere but I must say that previously, it was notoriously known to be the dirtiest town in Sarawak, and indeed it was! Visitors from other towns would just litter indiscriminately even though they would not do that in their own place; they said that the whole town was already so dirty anyway, so it would not make a difference! Pedestrians ruled the roads at the time (like the trishaw pedlars in Penang in the 70s); cars had to swerve to avoid them or stop to give way! And there were so many bicycles then!

Anyway, sometime back, the town council chairman then decided that it was high time for a change and  took the initiative to do something about it and due credit must be given to him and all involved for the massive facelift that changed the image of Sibu completely!…

Today, after the makeover, it is definitely a nice town…pleasant, not too busy, not very big and comparatively CLEANER than in the past and cleaner than many other places in the state/country.

Well, what’s the attraction, you may ask? The food, of course! Very nice and very, very cheap! Don’t worry, I’m not going to dwell on this as I’ve had quite a number of posts already about the food available here (And there are many more to come, I assure you! LOL!!!)…and you can get to see lots of that in other blogs as well.  For one thing, if you come to Sibu, perhaps you should take the opportunity to try the local delicacies, be it Foochow…


…like this bowl of dianpiangu or Melanau – the umai (raw fish) or the see-ert (sago worms) or Iban – the ayam pansuh (chicken cooked in bamboo), the babi kasam (fermented preserved pork)! You’ll be spoilt for choice, I assure you! What I just cannot understand is why people go all the way to a place and insist on eating the same kind of food that they have back home.  Many Asian tourists to Western countries, for example, would insist on having Chinese food provided in their tour package…or foreign tourists coming all the way here, would choose to eat at McDonald’s. But anyway, before I start straying off to the point of no return (…which I always have the tendency of doing!!! Hehehehehe!!!!), let’s get back to my post proper…

Other than the food, perhaps you would like to do a bit of shopping? Well, what do people do when they go to KL? Shop and eat! What do they do when they go to Penang? Shop and eat! Singapore? Shop and eat too!!! See!!!…..I rest my case! Well, some may have signed up for some tour package, so the guide may bring them somewhere to see how rubber trees are tapped or how they make pewter handicrafts!!!! Zzzzzz…..!!! You can shop for some real cheap bargains here; a friend will never fail to come here every December to buy his clothes for Christmas and Chinese New Year.  According to him, he can get the same in Kuching but at twice the price.  However, don’t bother to look for branded items or designer goods. Even if they are available, we won’t know whether they’re genuine or imitations. But, as far as I know, many people from West Malaysia or other countries will buy souvenirs – the native handicrafts e.g. the pua kumbu (handwoven blanket) or the rattan mat or they may want to bring home one of those beautiful Sarawak vases, a few salted terubok (fish) or the roe , and a kilo or two of the STRAIGHT udang kering (dried prawns). I always buy this for my friends in West Malaysia, and they always ask me why they are straight.  My answer is simple, “Because…they’re not gay!!!” LOL!!! It can be quite pricey now; the last time I bought some, it was RM70 a kilo.

But if anyone insists on sight-seeing, he can start at the Dewan Suarah (Civic Centre)…


The cultural museum on the ground floor can give visitors an insight into the history of the town and the cultures of the people. Then there are a number of memorial parks around…but one must not miss the Sungai Merah waterfront where the first Chinese settlers landed and lived. Here are some glimpses at the historical bazaar, the way it is today…

Anybody knows the person after whom the road is named? Well, for one thing, I do wish that the people concerned had restored and preserved the bazaar in its original state.  Today, hardly anything of the old settlement remains…and I feel that somehow it has lost its authentic rustic charm. Well, as they say, time changes everything, so we’ll just have to move on….. 

So, to do just that,  what on earth do you think this could be? The stairway to Heaven???

Well, in a way, it is…or to the Catholics, at least! Those are the stairs up to the inside of the majestic Sacred Heart Cathedral.  It is huge…and may be worth a visit. Well, when we go to Thailand or perhaps, China, what do we visit? Temples…temples…and more temples!!! Here, there are a number of churches, a Tua Pek Kong temple with a pagoda that is one of the landmarks of Sibu…or you may prefer to drop by the Central Market! The live chickens wrapped in newspapers with their heads sticking out and all tied up in bondage are a tourist attraction.  I’ve seen many bloggers posting photos of the poor birds!!!

I will not recommend a visit to the nearby longhouses as they are all very modern so you won’t get to experience much that is authentic. For that, you will have to take a ride in the Boeing 747-lookalike express boat to Kapit or past the infamous Pelagus rapids to Belaga and visit the longhouses there…but you will need a number of days to do that.

So, if anyone would like to visit Sibu, you can fly MAS or Air Asia from KL, JB or Kuching…or from Singapore via JB or Kuching…or by MASWings from Kota Kinabalu!!! Come, “ngui neng ting nee neng li lor wo!!! (Translation: In Foochow, “We are already waiting for you all to come!”)

Thank you…

Last week, an ex-student from my Form 5 classes last year contacted me to invite me to a barbecue that they would be having to bid farewell to their friends who will be leaving for further studies – matriculation in Labuan, JPA scholarship and all that and I went….. I must say I was flattered as I was the only one invited (Or maybe the other ex-teachers are not so greedy so they did not show up! LOL!).

It has been a few months since I last saw them. I was there each day when they sat for my subjects in the SPM Examination just to give them a bit of encouragement and moral support…but I could not make it when the results were released due to some family commitments.  Thankfully, they did outstandingly well…and that means more than anything to me, their teacher.

There was a lot of food, that goes without saying. This is Jacky, one of the nicest students I have had in all my years of teaching, taking charge of the barbecue pit…

I don’t actually care very much for those chicken wings, fish balls and sausages…but that night, I just could not resist…

…the pork belly/three-layer pork and it certainly did not help one bit that they gave me one whole plate of it all to myself…

And that wasn’t all. They had a buffet spread catered from a local hotel/restaurant. I did not think of taking the photographs before everyone started eating (I was so hungry, you see!) but I managed to get a shot at one of the dishes…

Well, apart from the food, it certainly was nice to see all of them again and I hope the feeling was mutual. I remember something that Jacky wrote in some kind of an autograph book that they gave me on my retirement…

You leave no poem for the world to read, you leave no written words to tell…of your noble thoughts, your kind acts and deeds. But in the throbbing pulse of human life, there shines a brighter gleam of joy and hope…because you have lived and loved…and given of yourself unselfishly.  Your life is a poem in itself, not realised by those it has touched so richly through the years but living still…to spread its rays of gladness and of cheer within the hearts of all humanity.

That meant more to me than anything else in the world…and as teachers, we must realise that what we give today, we will one day, get it all back in return…a hundredfold! I have said in one of my earlier posts that it distresses me greatly that there are so many teachers who are disillusioned, who do not seem to see any meaning in what they are doing. I believe that is exactly what their students feel about or think of them as their teachers. Love them and you will be loved much more in return…

And to all the boys who were at the gathering and those who were not, I thank you all for the affection over the years; nurture it always in your hearts for it will surely help in no small way to make you become better individuals in the years to come. May God bless each and every one of you in your undertakings.

What’s the difference (1)…

Even if you were as old as I am, you probably would not know this song which was on the flipside of the hit single, “San Francisco” by Scott Mckenzie. But if you were growing up in Sibu at that time, most likely you would remember two coffee shops in particular – Kiaw Siong and Ban Chuan.  Both of them had nice kampua stalls but between the two, I would rather have the one at the former.  Now, what’s the difference, you may want to ask? Well, actually there can be a world of difference between the kampua at one stall and another, what more to say in between towns or countries. But I guess it all boils down to a matter of preference or taste.

In the past, we only had the noodles with a few pieces of thinly-sliced pork coloured red and a sprinkling of spring onions and fried shallots but today, we may get them with a slight twist or we may find a bit of variation from the original.  Some die-hards will search high and low for the authentic stuff but in my case, I do not mind a change time and again.

In an earlier post, I posted a photo of seafood kampua where other than the meat, you get a few shrimps, fish balls and crab sticks with the noodles. Besides that, there is also the kampua with goo tor soup (Those caterpillar looking things from the inside of a cow. The intestines, I think!) or one may opt for this instead…

I remember how in the 70s, I used to love the mee kosong (plain noodles) with gu bak cheng (beef soup) at Ah Mui located in the Open Air Market in Kuching but the last time I went a couple of years ago, it was such a disappointment! The soup tasted like salted veg soup! Well, we have something like that that here at the coffee shop behind the Sibu Kidney Foundation building – beef soup with plain kampua for only RM2.50. Nice! But do go earlier; by around 10, it would all have been sold out, and do avoid the peak hours – 8.30 to 10.00 a.m. because the lady always seems to be in a foul mood when under stress!

Or you may prefer the kampua at Rasa Sayang, near the Sibu Bus Station (They’ve got a new name now it seems, but I can’t recall what it is!)…

I think I’ve said somewhere before that it is more like a cross between kampua and Kuching kolo mee…considering that with the noodles, you do not get the few miserable pieces of meat, but instead they put some phak-lor (cooked with soy sauce and five spice powder, like what some people do with duck) pork and minced meat. This one is the cheapest in town – only RM2.00 whereas elsewhere, it’s at least RM2.20 now.

For those less adventurous people, one good place is Soon Hock at the Delta Commercial Centre here, a stone’s throw away from my house. What they serve here is more or less like the conventional kampua…but interestingly, if you buy back home to eat, even when it is cold, it still tastes very nice, or perhaps even nicer, unlike the kampua in some places. Of course, whenever I go, I would ask for pian sip (or kiaw as they are called in Kuching or wanton elsewhere) instead of the pathetic four slices of pork…and I would ask for extras. So for RM3.00 I would get this…

Indeed it is quite substantial, so I can have that for a late breakfast and then, skip lunch! Two birds with one stone!

Well, the weekend’s here!!! Having anything special?…Kampua anyone?

Don’t speak…

In one of my earlier posts – “I don’t love you”, in the Hubby’s letter to his ex-wife, he said, “My mother raised me not to say anything if I can’t say anything nice.” I bet everyone agrees that is the very essence of sheer politeness. Then, a few days ago, I received an email from my brother in NZ…and I’d like to share it with everybody.


Photo from (Uploaded by Frarytd, Flickr)

Your words, your dreams and your thoughts
have the power to create conditions in your life.
What you speak about, you can bring about.

If you keep saying you can’t stand your job, you might lose your job.
If you keep saying you can’t stand your body, your body can become sick.
If you keep saying you can’t stand your car,
your car could be stolen or would just stop operating.
If you keep saying you’re broke, guess what? You’ll always be broke.
If you keep saying you can’t trust a man or a woman,
you will always find someone in your life who will hurt and betray you.
If you keep saying you can’t find a job, you will remain unemployed.
If you keep saying you can’t find someone to love you or believe in you,
your very thought will attract more experiences to confirm your beliefs.
If you keep talking about a divorce or break up in a relationship,
then you might end up with it.

Turn your thoughts and conversations around to be more positive
and power packed with faith, hope, love and action.
Don’t be afraid to believe that you can have what you want and deserve.

Watch your Thoughts, they become words.
Watch your Words, they become actions.
Watch your Actions, they become habits.
Watch your Habits, they become character.
Watch your Character, for it becomes your DESTINY.

The minute you settle for less than what you deserve,
you get even less than what you settle for.
Watch how your circumstances and situations begin to change
when you change the way you speak.

REMEMBER: Life is like melted butter…
Once things cool down, it can be reshaped!

Well, it certainly looks like what we say affects our lives more than we may realise. That’s quite a substantial bit of food for thought that’s worth pondering upon, don’t you think so?

A little good news…

Imagine picking up the morning paper…and not having had your mug of coffee yet, your mind still groggy…and rubbing the sleep out of your eyes, you think you see the name “Bongkersz” in the headline!!! Good grief! What has he done? What crime has he committed? Front page headline some more!!!…You take a closer look, and what a relief! It is not what you thought you saw, after all…

Well, that’s the good news! It isn’t Bongkersz after all, but it’s quite close, don’t you think? Bongkersz and bonkers – both the spelling and the guy in actuality!!! LOL!!! Reading on, you find that it is actually…

…a report about monkeys! Some place in the Daro district, they are having problems with monkeys ransacking their houses for food and stuff. Hmmm…interesting! Monkeys! Can you see the resemblance?

…..ROTFLMAO!!!! Have a nice weekend, everybody!!!

Footnote: Bongkersz posted something about me sometime ago, so this is a return gesture. Hope you like it, Bong! LOL!!!